A little self-control eases edginess and aggression
Last night we had pizza for dinner and I wanted to eat the whole thing. This is no exaggeration. I wanted to power down every single slice. But, I exercised a little self-control, settled on a second slice and a big serving of salad and felt filled up rather than guilty. It doesn’t always go [...]
Five ways to thrive during change and uncertainty
Change and uncertainty are major stresses for most of us, and two things we’re bound to experience plenty of in this life. So, stop getting all freaked out when the unexpected occurs and shift your focus to managing the uncertainty and thriving despite it. Come on now, you can do this. Start by changing how [...]
Uncertainty doesn’t mean trouble
Each week I make a to-do list with a naive certainty that everything will come to pass. I act like nothing else will come into my life at exactly 8:30 when it’s time to write the blog post, or that my husband will always walk in at 4:15, or that I’ll find just what I [...]
Six Ways to Strengthen Your Self Discipline
There will always be something that matters – something that must get done — that you don’t want to do. I hate folding clothes – but I also hate wearing wrinkled pants, therefore fold I must. Drawing from our reserves of self discipline to make responsible choices about folding or work or health or money [...]
Drawing on Self Discipline
Saturday, I was back in corner room, the one with the computer cursor blinking and the desk piled with three-week old newspapers and bill statements and books and my calendar book with dates already filled in for November. I was in the office, where I’ve been every weekend for nearly two months. Working on my [...]
File of No Big Surprise: Older minds yield greater wisdom
Here’s something from the No Big Surprise File: New research indicates that the brains of older people may actually be more efficient. Still, I’m amazed and annoyed by how often we talk around older people – as though they can’t hear what we’re saying or won’t get it anyhow. It’s a bad habit and downright [...]
Reframing = One simple way to build resilience
There isn’t any one thing you have to do to become more resilient. Instead, there is a group of qualities you can draw on. Some, come more naturally than others. But, those you aren’t so good at can be strengthened. That’s the cool thing about resilience – you can get stronger. It doesn’t mean that [...]
Develop resilience and move easier through the daily dramas
You know the bad stuff is gonna happen. Life feels tough from time to time. Change happens. Daily dramas push against us – at least every once-in-awhile. Heck, sometimes even grocery shopping is enough to throw me off track. Just what your daily dramas are or how you define the bad stuff often depends on [...]
Fulfill your desires by living close to your values
Can a clean house really contribute to a meaningful life and the happiness that comes from that? Sure can, but it all depends on what you value and how you fulfill those values. Plenty of science supports the Bigwigs who say our deepest sense of happiness comes from living a values-based life. This means that [...]
The Nature of Desire: Why it’s wise to want
There are things I want. Things I wish for. I desire more financial abundance. I desire to live with a greater sense of peace and patience. I want to find a way to contribute to the world in a bigger way. I want to drop another 15 pounds. A new stove wouldn’t be so bad [...]
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