Tis the Season that many of us are trying to survive without crazy stress and family drama. This is totally possible of course. We can do all that AND even have a really good time.
But on the days when you are feeling more edgy and irritable rather than fun and festive, try one of these in-the-moment quick tip or reminders that I call Power Ups, before you run screeching from the house.
Power Up: Stay Close to What You Care About
When what we are doing does not align with the things we most care about — our core values — we feel icky, upset, stressed out. Of course with more activities, demands, and expectations bombarding us over the holiday season we often feel like we’ve got to do it all. But, no way. Huh, uh. Stop right there.
Take a minute to write down the things you care about most this time of year. The must-dos and the traditions you love. If you want, have your family members do the same and then compare lists.
Let go of the things nobody wants to do. Drop the things that add stress rather than joy. And cut the should-do’s.
With the must-dos left on the list, make sure at least a couple of them align closely with your core values.
For example, if you are feeling pushed and pulled for time, and quality time to celebrate with the kids is important this season, you may choose to forgo adults-only office holiday party in lieu of a family Christmas concert or other festive activity.
Deliberately fill your time with the things that you care about most, and you’ll feel happier and more centered this season.