Life is a series of situations.
Moments we get to experience.
And each of them are a gift.
Some of those gifts like, a first kiss, the first sip of rich, morning coffee, a stunning sunset, holding our babies for the first time, getting the job, the house, the car that we’ve always dreamed of — are fun. Really fun. And we feel good and think life is great and nothing can be better than this. And aren’t we awesome?
Others like the death of a loved one, divorce, illness, job loss, a sick pet, financial stress, don’t feel so good. They throb and hurt. They are scary. So we judge them as bad.
Yet, even those times are a gift. Each experience contains the things we need to be who we are and to live close to our potential. We may not know what those are yet, we might even resist some, but they are there to serve us if we can just let them be and participate.
Fully Experience the Moment
We have become so comfortable with judging ourselves and others that we forget that we don’t have to. We can simply show up, become aware, and fully experience the moment as it is.
When we judge our experiences as good or bad, easy or hard we are limiting ourselves to only one possibility. One way of looking at things. Either bad, or good. That’s like deciding to paint your house dirt brown without ever looking at the deep shade of cocoa or the other colors in the palette. When we judge, we miss e miss out on the texture of life. The color.
Judgment makes those so-called hard times even harder.
Yet, each day we get myriad experiences – if we’re lucky. And every experience holds multiple layers of thoughts and emotions and actions and possibilities.
When we allow ourselves to fully experience those vast moments, without defining them, we can appreciate their complexity and their value and move through them. This intensifies the awe we experience when something touches our heart. But, it also allows us move through the things that hurt rather than becoming stuck in them.
My friend’s husband died today after a long illness. She is sad. Her grief is deep. And she is a little afraid. She is in a new journey now, one where she will have many moments without him.
Yet even in her grief she isn’t talking in terms of bad or good. It’s deeper than that. Because despite the pain, there is also peace, and love, and some laughter, even.
This is an intricate life we lead. Layered. To judge it as right or wrong, good or bad, is to diminish it.
Instead, allow yourself to fully experience the moment as it shows up and you’ll find the gift within it.