Last week I felt edgy. I was waiting for feedback from a client so that I could finish her work, waiting for a package to arrive, a callback from a landscaper. Then, Saturday, when we were all packed up and ready to go to Sweet P’s soccer game, I found myself sitting in the car, waiting for my husband to fill his water bottle. All the waiting sent me over the edge. I mean he had all morning to get ready so why did he need to fill the water bottle right then when we were all waiting to go, right?
Clearly, patience – tolerance for the circumstances of life — is something I need to work on. It’s definitely something I want to improve because every time I’m feeling edgy and filled with impatience, I’m giving my power away and moving into a place of separation and irritation. When I’m impatient and intolerant, I’m allowing external circumstances to dictate my mood. That changes how I behave and engage in life and not usually for the better.
When we act impatiently or feel impatient, we are not tolerant of plan changes, or waiting periods, or the actions of others and we feel irritated, anxious, restless, uptight.
Yet, with the power of patience and an ability to tolerate, we are able to roll with things easier. We are flexible, open, resilient. We don’t worry about what is or isn’t happening because we are okay with whatever happens. We are able to maintain our inner state of peace and positivity no matter what is happening beyond us. There is confidence in this. Most importantly, patience allows us to accept life as it shows up, to appreciate others and their differences, to find the gifts within every circumstance.
At the America Meditating Retreat I attended last month, the spiritual teachers there include Tolerance, defined by patience and flexibility, as one of the Eight Spiritual Powers.
I get that. When I slow down to become present, to fully connect with what is, there is no place for the irritation or frustration that waiting brings. When you are patient, you are not waiting, you are present with whatever is there.
Acceptance of the Moment
Impatience does not make things happen any faster or easier. It simply means we are stewing over things that haven’t happened and may never happen. This is resistance and when we are resisting what is we are blind to the possibilities contained in the moment.
Patience, tolerance for the speed of life, allows us to become present to all that is. There is power in that, but even more importantly, there is peace. Wednesday, I’ll share with you some of the strategies I’m using to connect to this superpower of patience.