I intend to lose a few pounds. Feeling a little sluggish and slow after the winter months and I’m ready to get my body into better shape, and release some of the weight I acquired during my hibernation.
There are several other things, too, that I’d like to accomplish, learn about, improve. Yet I also believe and say repeatedly that I’m also good enough with all that I am. I think you are too. I believe that we have all that we need to cope with anything that comes, that we have all we need to live the life we desire and make a positive contribution to the planet.
So, what gives? How can we be just right and still make the positive moves we need to make to amp our lives?
Examine Your Motives
It comes down to motivation. Why do want to change? Is it because you want to align with your own values, your essence to live your best life, to expand into your greatest potential?
Or, do you want to make your mother happy?
Sometimes it’s easier to keep your mother happy – I get that. Boy, do I get that. But in the long run, if you are working to change something because you think you must be different to be worthy, well, that’s going to lead to a whole lot of frustration and dissatisfaction, but not a whole lot of improvement.
By our very nature we are expansive, creative, growing beings. We feel good when we learn new things and have new experiences. We feel alive when we pursue an important and meaningful goal. Self-growth and improvement is a powerful aspect of who we are and it can lead us to our best selves. But, if you’re doing it for someone else, it will lead to failure, resentment, disappointment.
So, consider your motivation before choosing your next goal and consider these three questions.
1. Do the changes and improvements you are considering – losing weight, starting your dream job, going back to school, having children, moving to a small town, working on the marriage – feel good and right because they align with your authentic self or are you just doing what people expect you to do? It’s essential to pick something that is important to you no matter what other people think.
2. Do you get a little excited when you think about taking on the new challenge or making a positive change, or do you feel worn out, uninspired, depressed even?
When we are on track and working toward creating our most authentic life, it feels good. Even when the work is difficult, we often feel energized. If you’re not feeling it, chances are you’ve picked a goal that doesn’t align with who you are.
3. Do you have a sense of what you want to accomplish or try, but feel stifled by the expectation of others? Reevaluate your values and pick the goal that aligns with those and you’ll have the courage to pursue it no matter what others expect.
After considering the questions above, begin to think about what YOU want. What would make your soul sing? What would help you feel and live your best life? What do you need to do to grow and expand and live with passion and purpose?
Make a list and read the following post for some quick tips to help you to get after those goals.
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