Nearly 11 years ago, I pulled out a notebook and began writing down what I would want in the “perfect male.” I was looking for someone funny and fun. Smart and responsible. Someone about 5’9 who thought I was witty and smart and someone who was willing to travel and try new things. That’s what I started with, at least, and by the time I finished writing my notes about the perfect male, I’d filled nearly four pages. Then I put the notebook away and continued with my full and happy life, rarely thinking about the pages I’d filled.
Until, six months later, when I met the man who in real life embodied all but one tiny detail I’d mentioned in my notebook. That man is now my husband Mr. J and he still holds true to all the lofty ideals I wrote down years ago. He is still my Perfect Male.
On one hand this seems surreal, lucky, unbelievable even. But, when you look at how the Universe works, how energy both attracts and repels, it makes total sense. You create what you believe. You get what you focus on. By getting clear about what I wanted, I attracted it to me.
Whether it’s work or romance or health or wealth focusing on what you want and going after it with deliberate action can put the Law of Attraction in motion and draw those things to you.
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Hmm, “consistent with our personal belief system.” That truly is the key.
My criteria for the perfect man was one who had more muscular calves than me. Got that, and he still does 30 years later.
I believed a husband/father should be/do certain things. Got that and a lot of stuff I didn’t consider. Let’s not forget that the perfect man also has expectations for the perfect woman. We are also what others attract.
I believe that challenges are fun and make us the best we can be, but also have said that “life sucks and then you die but you still have to make the best of it”. Got that too, for years.
There are benefits to attracting what you don’t want, it makes you grow and refine your desires. It’s also good to remember our baggage and wonder why someone in our life was willing to attract it to them.
Good comments, Terri, as always. I think, as in with anything in life that we want to create or attract, it is important to get very specific. This also helps us to know when it shows up. Of course, it’s tough to anticipate everything — and we all change as life moves us — and so I tried to attract a person that was a “flexible thinker who was willing to grow and change even if it was uncomfortable.” I agree that there are benefits to attracting what you don’t want — if you’re paying attention. Take note of what you are drawing into your life and if it’s not working, tweak your desires a bit and see what happens.
Hi Polly,
Congrats on manifesting your Mr. J — isn’t being your soulmate just the best?
Blessings to you,
Arielle
Arielle, your work resonates with me. And Mr. J is the best! He is living proof that this stuff is powerful and can bring blessings (of all kinds) to your life. Thanks for stopping by.