Break free from sabotaging beliefs

I’m feeling stuck today –not sure which way to turn, what to do next – and that makes me curious. I’m interested in why we get stuck and mostly how to let go and break free from our stuckedness. Course this means we have to give up the griping and blaming and take responsibility for ourselves. It also means freedom.

When we spend time complaining about the external crap — the crazy mini-van driver who cut us off, the slow poke in the check out line, the husband who doesn’t wipe off the counter (maybe that’s just me) we wear ourselves out. It’s a form of self sabotage that sucks our energy out and takes our intention and intellect away from doing the things that inspire us – the things that keep us on purpose.

You can worry all you want about the bank account that never seems to fill or the dark jeans that never seem to fit, or the argument that never gets resolved – but you know it’s all about YOU. Right? The challenges we have are not outside ourselves – they are within us.

Knowing that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll stop the shoe-shopping-ice-cream-eating behavior that ultimately shows up as a form of self-sabotage, because while we think one thing we live by the beliefs that have settled in to our subconscious. We may think something consciously – “I deserve this promotion” — but the subconscious beliefs, that usually direct our behavior are screaming “don’t be a stupid head, you can’t do this job.” It’s not true of course, a thought is not reality. But when we start acting as though it is true, we convince our bodies and spirits and brains and a limiting belief takes root.

This week then, take a look at the areas of your life that are humming and also observe those that are less than bueno. What’s working? What could be better? Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t blame, just observe. Experience. Become aware. And pinpoint the beliefs you that have kept you from where you wanted to go. From here we’ll begin to unwind those strings of tangled beliefs.

For example,  I was raised with the belief that you could have Money or Happiness – you couldn’t have both at the same time. So, I went with happiness and I am happy and — I’m watching every dime. Because of my beliefs about money every time I got close to big money, my subconscious reminded me with a taser-like effectiveness that cash and happiness cannot co-exist. While I’ve always had enough money to pay my bills and cover my costs, I’ve never reached a level where I wasn’t eager to return the pop cans.  Now I know better though. I’ve uncovered the bones of that belief, I know it’s baloney and I’ve begun working to clear it out (this can be easier than you think) and to replace it with a new shinier model. I mean really, who says you have to pick. I can be happy and financially abundant. I’m going after it.

And you can too. Identify some of those deep beliefs – the things sticking like super glue to your psyche — and in the posts to come, we’ll talk about how to kiss them goodbye.